I just watched the Bachelorette The Men Tell All. I am sorry. I promised myself I would not do this, but...
I don't have a good excuse.
I would like to touch on the concept of Man Code as brought up by David. Man Code covers a lot.
1. Do not be a fruit fly.
A fruit fly as defined by a friend many years ago is the not very attractive guy who somehow makes friends with the hot chick and hangs out with her all the time. He has no chance for her, but his pride keeps him from just letting her go. And, he somehow ruins the chances for any other guy by being around ALL THE TIME!!! Good example of this would be Tucker in There's Something About Mary.
2. Act like a guy.
This could cover a lot as well. But, do not cross your legs one knee over the other when sitting. Use your low voice. And, go to the gym once a week.
3. Do not be phony, cheesy, two-faced, and be a friend with your fellow guys. That should be your number one goal. The dating and girlfriends will fall into place if you can be friends first and foremost with your fellow countrymen.
Hopefully, 2 and 3 do not conflict.
So, the Bachelorette has a certain sort of realism to it. I remember being with a group of three other guys going to visit an apartment of cute chicks, where one or two of them was the target. And, it was really funny to see the previous group of four guys leaving. Like a tag team sort of thing.
And, I was kind of just along for the ride. There was so much wrong with the whole situation to begin with. This girl could not be that interesting. I think I remember being in there occupied with a puzzle on the table after we went in. I was notorious for being a social misfit. That was more fun than being a fruit fly.
So, I really identify with the Bachelorette. The tons of guys all vying for the one girl. It is too bad we did not have a camera there so everyone could give their perspective. Okay, that's the part I hate.
The Men Tell All episode hit the nail on the head when they said that the whole idea of the show is contrary to Man Code. It is! Guys that are friends do not compete for the same chick. Well, they do. It happens, but it shouldn't. And so, Man Code is continually violated and it becomes a frenzy of interviews and stupidity.
An interesting show would be a group of friends like 5 guys and 3 chicks. And, you just film them and their interactions. No interviews. No talking to the camera. Just the situation. And, you could call the show Man Code. And review after each episode. The audience could grade the guys on who violated the most policies of Man Code. But there would be no elimination. You just have scores and silly rules, which is really what Man Code is all about.
